The Widow in the Woods

An aged widow of many years had run out of sufficient resources and was forced to sell her home. After paying off her substantial debts, all she could afford and maintain on her meager income was a small shack at the edge of a large forest. There she lived in poverty for years.

One day she decided to take a walk in the forest, something she enjoyed as her only pastime considering her financial limitations. She carefully cobbled together a small sandwich from yesterday’s leftovers and placed it in her little handbag along with a couple plastic bottles of chilled water. She set out for her walk taking a pathway through her back yard that was lined with large maple trees. Leaves had begun to fall having already reached their vibrant red autumn color weeks before. They crunched under her feet as she made her way to the log bridge that would take her over the brook that wended its way through the forest.

As she approached the bridge, the sun shone brightly, it rays piecing the thinning canopy of branches above. The rays reaching the forest floor played its shadows into mystical shapes. When she reached the midpoint of the bridge, she stopped to glance down at the babbling waters below. Suddenly, a ray of sunshine struck an object on the floor of the brook reflecting magically through the water. So dramatic was this scene that she ran to the end of the bridge and scurried down to the brook’s edge. Kneeling and pulling up her sleeve, she reached down and grasped what she thought had captured the sunlight.

As she rose to her feet she slowly opened her hand, and stared hypnotically at a huge gemstone, its brilliant color and size overwhelming her. As she stood silently taking in what she had just discovered, she began to assess what it would mean and how it would change her life. Obviously it was of great value. She would never have to worry again if she would have enough to eat. With a sense of renewed hope and a joyful smile on her face, she carefully placed the gem in her bag. She returned to the trail and continued on her planned journey into the forest.brook-1The autumn colors and seasonal aromas danced before her senses. The forest denizens scurried about making the most of their time collecting provisions for the coming winter. Squirrels and birds collected acorns and sundry nuts and berries, eating some on the run, burying others for future meals. The forest was alive with activity and the widow was thrilled to be an appreciative observer of God’s creation in action. A soft breeze rustled through the trees, causing a constant drift of colored leaves falling down from the heights to the floor below. Each leaf added to the multicolored mosaic carpeting the ground beneath her feet.

As the trail made a sharp turn around a large oak tree, she noticed a man lying against the trunk. He was aged and poorly dressed. His shoes were worn through in places. His long beard indicated he hadn’t shaved for months. He looked up at the widow with hopeless eyes and begged her for something to eat, saying he had not eaten for two days. If she could spare just a small morsel he would be eternally grateful.

The widow knelt beside him. She opened her bag and gave him the small sandwich she had made and the water bottles she had packed. He gratefully thanked her. After eating the sandwich and drinking some water, he regained some strength and offered again his appreciation for her kindness. But then he said that he had noticed a gem in her bag when she retrieved the sandwich and water. He asked if she would give that gem to him as well. Without hesitation, the widow dug into her bag and handed him the gem. He was astounded. And as she had done when she first found it, he stood silently taking in what she had just given him. He began to assess what it would mean and how it would change his life as it surely was of great value.

As he stood there in amazement, the widow rose to her feet, silently turned and continued down the trail. Then, the man came to his senses and called out to the woman, “Stop, please come back!”

The widow stopped, turned and went back to see what the man wanted. As she approached, he reached out with the gem in his hand.

“I am giving the gem back to you. But I ask that you give me in return something even more valuable than this precious priceless gem. That is, what it is that is in your heart that caused you to give it to me when I asked for it.”

The Turning Point

This story reminds us that graciousness is a powerful gift that when exercised has the ability to change lives. What we do speaks louder than what we say or what we give. When the Spirit of God is able to guide us, He leads us to be the blessing for pothers that God hopes we would become. Interesting to note is that when this widow awoke that day, she had not an inkling of what the day had in store for her. But her willing heart, sensitive to the urging of the Spirit made her a blessing for someone in need.

The turning point of this story for me was the revelation that the earth bound material we give is nothing when compared to the gift of leading someone to God, His righteousness, His grace and His love. The truth of the divine pronouncement, “Seek first the Kingdom of Heaven and all these things will be given to you” rings true. I wonder, who will God’s Spirit lead me to tomorrow? Will I be ready to be a blessing He hopes I will be?

COPYRIGHT © 2014 ALLAN E. MUSTERER

The Mexico Connection – The First Fish Turning Point

Turning points in my life have appeared unannounced and camouflaged in unexpected events. They were often preceded by a chain of unrelated events that ultimately culminated in a classic turning point that changed everything. Such was the case in late 1970 after Carol and I had relocated to the west coast.

Where do you vacation when you live in Paradise? This was the question my wife and I wondered since we arrived in San Diego from northern New Jersey. The answer came from Carol’s friends at work. “You must discover Mexico!” was their response to our question.

So our first vacation while living in California found us going by train from Mexicali to Mazatlan in 1971. It was a great adventure that opened our hearts and minds to the beauty of the land and people who were our southern neighbors. This series of events set the stage for a turning point moment in time a few years later, 1974 when our son was a year old. Friends invited us to join them for a Saturday at a small vacation community just north of the town of Rosarita Beach. Americans owned a few dozen homes on a bluff above a beautiful beach, about 30 miles south of the border on the Baja peninsula. The setting was so perfect that Carol and I decided to rent that same beach house the following summer. With the pertinent information for renting the place from our friends we began to formulate our vacation plans.

We arranged to rent the beach house for the first week of August 1975. As the date approached, Carol and I began to accumulate the stuff we needed to take with us. As an avid fisherman, I was anxious to get my feet wet in the surf and fish for the feisty surf perch that swam just off shore. While we were visiting our friends the year before, I had noticed a local Mexican man fishing on the beach with just some monofilament line wrapped around a coke bottle. As we spoke, he displayed a nice string of surf perch he had caught. In anticipation of the fishing, I packed my seven foot surf rod, spinning reel and a supply of hooks and sinkers. The night before we were to leave, we loaded our little red Mazda pickup truck for our first family vacation in Mexico.

At the time our son Randy was two weeks away from turning three. It was a quick trip from our home in San Diego to the quaint little house perched above the blue Pacific Ocean. When we arrived, we quickly unpacked the truck and surveyed the house and its surrounds. There was a large flagstone patio in the back of the house that overlooked the ocean. A winding stone staircase led down the bluff to the beach below. We were all excited to get our feet wet and I found myself deep in thought as to what the week’s vacation would hold. Prime for me of course was the chance to fish the pounding surf.

Once we had all our clothes and food stowed in their proper places in the house, we boarded the truck for a trip into town and few miles to the south. The town essentially existed on a single broad and dusty main street lined with stores, restaurants and night clubs. The biggest and most famous landmark was the old Rosarita Beach Hotel. We were interested in finding a bakery and a supermarket where we planned to retrieve daily necessities to augment the food we had from home.

Each morning, I drove the truck into town to get fresh rolls from the bakery, a San Diego newspaper and anything else we needed from the grocery store. When Randy came along we looked for some treats for him.

I have found that turning points cannot be legislated or created by our own hand or mind. Such is the turning point of this story.

Since my childhood I was an avid fisherman. So, it was only natural for me to take along my fishing gear on a vacation that offered unlimited surf fishing in the Pacific. Each morning after breakfast, Randy and I went down to the beach. As the surf beat upon the sand, we scurried with small shovels in hand to scoop up as many sand crabs as we could catch. We filled a small bucket with a few dozen of the little creatures. These would become our precious bait. Of course Randy was simply fascinated by the little critters and would have been content to just spent time playing with them.
Sand Crab-1                                                              Sand crab
My desire was to feed as many of these critters on my fishing hooks to the hungry fish that I knew lurked just beyond the breaking waves. I had previously set up my surf fishing rod rigged with two hooks and a sinker. I baited the two hooks, took my position in the wash of the last wave and just as the next wave began to break I cast the bait, hooks, line and sinker over the wave. It quickly sank to the sandy depths below about thirty yards out. It didn’t take long for the first surf perch to take the bait. I hauled in my catch and Randy was so excited he wanted to try his hand at this new discovery – fishing.
Surf Perch-1                                                             Surf Perch
I showed Randy how to hook the flap of shell on the side of the sand crab and then helped him with the long surf rod and cast the baited rig past another wave. There he stood in his little red bathing suit, holding on for dear life to a seven foot long fishing rod. The motion of the waves and undertow kept a steady pull on the line causing the rod to bend at the tip.

Then it happened! A surf perch took the bait and all of a sudden holding on to the jerking rod became a real challenge for Randy. But, gritting his teeth for mental support, he succeeded in landing the fish all by himself. His excitement was written all over his face. Fortunately, I had my camera ready to record the event!   rsm-year2fish8-74                                                      Randy’s First Fish

Randy was hooked on fishing from this very moment. No longer was the catching of sand crabs the thrill of the day for him. Now, that was only the prelude to catching fish!

For a number of years following this initial vacation in Baja, we made the trip to that Rosarita beach house our annual destination. Each year Randy caught more, bigger and a greater variety of fish than he caught the previous year. These photos record the hauls for 1980.

rsm-year6t-mex-8-80-TP                                                         Another Catch

rsm-year6t-mex-8-80001TP                                                               Dog Fish

rsm-year6t-mex-8-80002-TP                                                     Dinner was great!

Turning Point(s)

Randy’s first fish was a turning point for me because it began a deeper connection with my son. Fishing became a common ground for our relationship. Over time it grew to include deep sea fishing in both the Pacific and Atlantic oceans, trout fishing in the glacier fed roaring Big Pine Creek in the eastern Sierras, Dorado fishing in Puerto Vallarta and Cabo San Lucas and shark and Dorado fishing in Cancun. But I also learned that as a parent, these life turning points cannot be planned, rather an open and expectant eye is necessary to see them as they present themselves. I am grateful that I saw the open door when Randy asked to fish in the surf that day. I didn’t measure his request by his size and think it impossible. I just worked to make it happen for him.
It turned out to be a profound turning point for Randy as well. It opened the door for him to learn many lessons in life and to find his passion. It became the vehicle for him to earn enough money to buy his first truck, to start a fishing club at school and to learn to love sushi and ultimately master the art of sushi making. His dream of owning and operating his own sushi restaurant became a crowning achievement among many others along the way.

COPYRIGHT © 2014 ALLAN E. MUSTERER

My Dad and Books

 

My earliest recollection as a child became a significant turning point for me. According to my mother’s notes recording my progress in infancy, in my ninth month I discovered books and she wrote “Allan loves to have stories told to him”.  Surprisingly, it was just after I turned one year old according to my mother’s notes, when I began to sleep in my own room.
dad-early                                                                My Dad

Sometime after that, I remembered my dad asked me to go to my room to get a book. I ran to the bookcase, grabbed my favorite book, “Jiggers” and ran into my parent’s room.

Dad and Rocker-5Dad in his rocking chair

There a large comfortable rocking chair resided with my dad comfortably seated. I jumped onto Daddy’s lap, book in hand ready for the story.

 mom-dad-1-20-1944                                 Allan & his Teddy in the Rocking Chair

The story was about a little girl and her dog named Jiggers. She loved to play with Jiggers until one day someone left the door open and Jiggers ran out and got lost. Her parents helped search for the dog but for a while Jiggers could not be found. Finally, Jiggers was found and the little girl’s tears turned into happy smiles.
Jiggers
My Dad read this book to me so many times I actually memorized it. He often tested me and skipped a sentence. I immediately stopped and corrected him, and promptly recited the sentence he skipped. Another book that I recalled was “The Poky Little Puppy” although I don’t remember the story for this one.
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Turning Points

 This experience gave me an appreciation for reading books, although I didn’t really read much other than school books until I reached high school. I also gained an appreciation for the power of storytelling and the importance of developing ability to explain things to others. These moments with my dad also created a deep love for him that helped me cope with his strictness during my teenage years.

COPYRIGHT © 2014 ALLAN E. MUSTERER

Terror on Interstate 5

It was early December 1981 when I got the sad news that my dear friend from San Francisco had suffered a fatal heart attack.  As Youth Leader, he went Christmas caroling with the church youth group. Following the caroling he returned home, sat down in his easy chair and suffered a massive heart attack that took his life. The news of his death struck me very hard. I felt deeply grieved for my loss, but even more so for the loss his dear wife suffered.

Following this news, three friends from San Diego joined me in a plan to drive to San Francisco the following Monday. We wanted to support his wife at the funeral scheduled for Tuesday afternoon. One of my friends volunteered to use his diesel Oldsmobile for the trip and with superior fuel mileage it would help minimize our expenses. Since we all had jobs we also wanted to minimize time away from our work.  We agreed to leave after work Monday evening. We planned to spend the night in a motel five to six hours into the journey and then continue on to San Francisco for the funeral on Tuesday morning. Our return required us to drive through the night, each sharing the driving to return home by early morning Wednesday, thereby missing only one day of work.

The drive up to Coalinga was uneventful and we found a convenient Motel 6 just off the freeway. In the morning we had breakfast at a nearby restaurant before continuing our journey.

We arrived at the church for the funeral service where we were able to greet and share the special memories we experienced with our dear departed friend. His wife was touched that we took the time and made the effort to come to share this special time with her. After the fellowship that followed we said our goodbyes and set out on our homeward journey at about eight o’clock that evening.

I volunteered to drive the first leg of the return trip home. It was quite cold that evening and we were not well prepared for that, considering we were travelling in a warm car. Fortunately the traffic was light, so we were making good time as soon as we reached Interstate 5. I noted that all my passengers were now sound asleep.

As the interstate highway entered the central valley, a dense tule fog bank moved in and visibility began to become a significant issue. Tule fog is a thick ground fog that settles in the San Joaquin Valley and Sacramento Valley areas of California’s Great Central Valley. Tule fog forms from late fall through early spring after the first significant rainfall. The official time frame for tule fog to form is from November 1 to March 31. This phenomenon is named after the tule grass wetlands of the Central Valley. Tule fog is the leading cause of weather-related accidents in California.

Although traffic was very light, I still cut my speed because there are usually large semi tractor trailers on the freeway and they often travel slowly. I didn’t want to risk coming up on one and not having sufficient space to avoid an accident. Then about two hours into the trip, I noticed something that caused me considerable concern.

The car seemed to be acting abnormal. The engine lacked the normal feel it had before. I poked the owner of the car and woke him up. I explained that I was concerned that something was seriously wrong with the car’s performance. He suggested we take the next exit that had a gas station.

A few miles further I exited the freeway and pulled into a gas station. We inquired as to any available diesel engine mechanics and were told that we needed to go further south to find a station with diesel repair capability. At this point I asked my friend who owned the car to take over the driving.

About a half hour later, the engine suddenly froze up forcing us to abruptly exit the freeway. We maneuvered the car a few feet off the shoulder on an open spot of dirt and parked. In this area, farmland blanketed both sides of the freeway and many miles between exits. On each side of the road was a paved shoulder and then about thirty to fifty feet of open field before a barbed wire fence that bordered a farm. Large balls of tumbleweed littered the landscape. It was quite desolate, foggy and bitterly cold.

At first I was not too concerned, thinking that we would easily find someone to stop and give one of us a ride to the next exit where a tow truck could be summoned. By now it was well after ten o’clock, the fog growing denser and the temperature dropping.

All four of us got out of the car and attempted to flag down someone. I am not sure what the reason was, but after a half hour we were unable to get anyone to stop. Maybe they couldn’t see us for the fog, or seeing four men caused them fear. With the very light traffic, there were not many opportunities either. The weather was also getting to us as our light clothing did not give much protection from the damp cold.

We decided three of us would return to the car and try with just one of us doing the flagging. Soon a light blue Monte Carlo came to screeching halt, bypassing our position by a good thirty yards and kicking up a huge cloud of dust. Now on the paved shoulder, the car backed up and came to a halt adjacent to our car. One of my friends exited our car and three young men exited the Monte Carlo. They greeted us and said they would help us fix our car.

Monte Carlo-1

We told them that the engine had seized up and we really needed a tow truck. They said they would take one of us down to the next exit where we could summon a tow truck. I volunteered to go since I had an AAA card with towing privileges. One of my friends, Dave, also volunteered to join me so I would not be alone with the three strangers.

The Monte Carlo was a two-door coupe so one of the men entered the back seat first followed by me in the middle and Dave behind the passenger seat. Then the driver and the other man got in. We reentered the freeway and headed south.
I figured by the appearance of these three strangers and their apparent ages, that they were probably basketball players and maybe attended Fresno State University. I gauged their ages as late teens or early twenties. I quickly realized that they were not interested in engaging my attempts at conversation. Then, the man in the front passenger seat bent down and came up with a sawed-off double barrel shotgun. He swung it around and put the barrels into my face and announced, “This is a stick up!”

As I looked down the barrels of that gun, I suddenly realized in those few moments that my life may be about to end. All I thought of was my wife and my son and my family. I silently prayed. I do not know all of what I asked for, but I do remember thinking: is this all You want of me God, or is there more You want me to do?

I tried to talk the gunman down, but the driver immediately slammed on his brakes. The car skidded off the road sliding off the shoulder into the dirt. As soon as the car came to a stop, the driver turned and grabbed my throat, pushing me up against the rear window and screamed. “If you don’t shut up, we will kill you right now!”

Then he demanded that we give them all our money including our wallets, keys and watches. The man in the back seat collected all that we had and proceeded to count the cash. The driver had warned us that if we didn’t have enough cash we would be shot.

The man next to me finally announced that we had a total of sixty five dollars, which was not nearly enough according to the driver. With this, the gunman exited the car and stood at the open door with the shot gun in hand. He pushed his seatback forward and ordered us out of the car. The driver commanded us to walk to the barb wire fence a few yards away. He warned us not to look back as we did not want to know when the shots were fired.

Slowly, Dave stepped out of the car and slowly took a few steps toward the fence. As I was exiting the car I noticed that the gunman was standing behind the door holding the shot gun pointed toward the ground. As soon as my feet hit the ground, Dave bolted north toward the rear of the car and I immediately followed. We ran as fast as we could, hurdling over the myriad of three to four foot diameter balls of tumbleweed strewn all around us.

The air was cold and humid from the dense fog making breathing very painful. Every labored breath felt like breathing in razorblades. My lungs were stinging and my heart pounding. After running and hurdling over numerous tumble weeds for about thirty yards, I tripped over a large one and fell to the ground. I peered back through the tumbleweed that tripped me up and saw the gunman break open his shotgun, pull out the two shells and toss them into the front seat. He jumped back into the car and they sped off continuing south on the freeway.

Dave and I regrouped and immediately attempted to flag down a driver. Within a few minutes, a large older model Cadillac pulled over and offered us a ride. I got into the front passenger seat and Dave took the back seat. On the back seat sat a large cooler. I told the driver we had just been hi-jacked and needed to get to a place to call the police and find a tow truck for our still stranded friends. The driver said that there was a Denny’s restaurant a few miles further south and we could take care of those needs there.

In the meantime, he offered us a beer from the cooler on the back seat. Then to my shock, I realized that the driver was not only drinking a beer, but he was also smoking a marijuana joint! If that wasn’t disconcerting enough, he was driving at 80 miles an hour through the dense tule fog that offered no more than fifty yards visibility. As I had been praying silently throughout this ordeal for God’s gracious support, I asked Him “What are you doing? It seems we have gone from the frying pan into the fire!”

Soon we arrived at the Lost Hills exit on Interstate 5 and proceeded to the Denny’s restaurant. As we pulled into the parking lot, I noticed a light blue Monte Carlo. “Oh no” I thought, “they are here!”

We cautiously entered the restaurant. There were three men at a table that looked very much like our hijackers, but they had their backs to us so we couldn’t be sure. So we slinked into a closed section of the restaurant where we summoned a waitress. I apprised her of our situation and she guided us to a location not visible to those in the open restaurant area. She brought us a phone and gave us the number of the California Highway Patrol. I called the number and told the officer our story. He said he would be able to get there in about 45 minutes.

The waitress brought us a cup of coffee and told us that there was a tow truck driver at the bar. I asked her to bring him over so we can get him to pick up our friends stranded with the car. The man was quite impressive. He sported a full beard and wore weathered jeans with a large chain looping from a belt loop to the wallet in his back pocket. I explained the situation and he assured us that he would take care of our friends. Then as if to reassure us, he put his cowboy boot clad foot on a chair and pulled up the pant leg to reveal a pearl handled silver 45 pistol. He remarked, “I am covered for anything!” He promptly left to find our friends in the disabled car.

It was now almost midnight, so while we waited for the police to arrive, I called my wife at home in San Diego. I told her what had happened and asked her to alert the San Diego police and to cancel our credit cards.

Forty-five minutes after our initial call, a California Highway Patrol officer arrived at Denny’s. In the interim the three possible perpetrators had left the restaurant. We gave the officer a report of what happened and a description of the car they were driving. He left in pursuit of the felons.

Shortly thereafter, Dave and I were sitting at the bar having another coffee and an English muffin when the door opened and young man entered the restaurant. When I looked at him, a total stranger, he seemed to me to be in shock. He appeared pale and was walking tentatively. I jumped off my seat and ran to him. I asked him what had happened to him. He looked me in the eyes and told me that three men with a double barrel sawed off shot gun hijacked his car and left him on the side of the road. I quickly hustled him to the phone, dialed the police and told him to tell the officer exactly what happened and to describe his car.

I later discovered that within a few minutes, the officer located the perpetrators in this young man’s car and were in hot pursuit. The police pursuit took hours, chasing the three men hundreds of miles at speeds in excess of 100 miles per hour. They raced all the way to the Magic Mountain amusement park on the northern end of Los Angeles. There, the three men abandoned their stolen car and attempted to scale the fences and escape into the park. It was early morning on Wednesday when the police apprehended two of the men. The third, the driver, made good his escape into the park when he successfully scaled the fence before the police could reach him.

With two men in custody, the police summoned a SWAT team. They entered the park and continued pursuit of the final perpetrator. However, he was able to elude the SWAT team and the police canine unit. When the park’s maintenance crew arrived shortly thereafter, they found the last man trying to phone his girl friend from a pay phone and apprehended him.

While the pursuit of the third accomplice was underway, the other two men were brought back to the Shafter police station and booked into prison. While this was unfolding, my two friends who stayed with the car were picked up by the tow truck driver and the car was towed into Shafter where there was a car dealership. The car was dropped off and left for the needed repairs. We rented a car to get home, but before we could leave the police took Dave and me to the county jail for a line-up. As we walked through the county jail, past a row of jail cells, there was a chill that crawled up my spine as I looked at the men incarcerated there. Hate and anger glared from their faces.

We were led into a room with a glass window that was a one-way mirror, so that those in the adjoining room could not see us. Both of us quickly identified the two men that were in custody.

Finally, reunited with our other two friends, we packed into the rental car and headed homeward. All along the way we listened to the news that was reporting whole incident. As we drove we heard that the police had apprehended the third man who had escaped into Magic Mountain amusement park.

Later that day we arrived home, but the ordeal was not yet over. News stations in San Diego and Los Angeles tried to get an interview, but I refused as I didn’t want to jeopardize any future court case. The headlines in our local paper read:

FOG-VEILED ROBBERY:  3 suspects held in heist on I-5

A few months went by when Dave and I were summoned to appear in court in Shafter. We journeyed to Shafter and were again brought to the jail for another line-up.  This time we failed to identify the perpetrators. In the time they were incarcerated, they grew facial hair and altered their appearance by changing their hair style. The prosecutors told us that the case was very tentative because we were unable to identify the men. They showed us all the stolen wares that were recovered and we could easily identify our wallets and wristwatches. I noted that my keys were missing. We were asked to stay in a room that housed local high school yearbooks. Along with the young man whose car was hijacked, we spent a couple hours passing the time paging through the collection of yearbooks.

When the prosecutors returned, they told us that the attorneys for the three men negotiated a plea bargain. Their clients were sentenced to nine years without parole in San Quentin state prison. The prosecutor said that when the attorneys peered through the window into the room and saw us in business suits, they realized we would be credible witnesses. Their hard bargaining softened and they gave in to the conditions dictated by the prosecution.

Our belongings were returned to us and we actually got more cash than we had lost. I got my wallet and wristwatch back but lost the only thing that had significant sentimental value, my key chain. The gold plated key chain itself was engraved with my initials, given to me as best man in my brother’s wedding. The chain also had a small gold plated engraved pen knife, given to me as best man in my college roommate’s wedding. But most painful was that it had my wife’s high school ring attached to it.

Turning Points:

The first turning point was that in that brief moment when my next breathe of life was in doubt, my only thought was my family, those I hold most dear, it was vividly revealed what I valued most in life. I had reached out to my God, put myself in His hands and He preserved me.

The next turning point in this experience was the revelation resulting from the loss of what I had held as great sentimental value. By losing it, I realized that it is foolish to place your value on anything material. Rather place your value on the people who you cherish in life. They are invaluable and irreplaceable. Never underestimate their value to you and never limit your love for them.

The third turning point was the deep friendship that developed between Dave and me. His sentiments, expressed in an interview reported in the school newspaper where he worked as a teacher, perfectly define our common feelings:
“I have a different outlook on life now,” explained Polich. “My priorities are different; spiritual things are more important now. I’m a very religious person, and I think God must have something for me to do in life, because there was no reason for the robbers not to kill us – we got a good look at them.”

Finally, in what may seem to be an odd sort of way, I find myself indebted to those three misguided young men. What they intended for evil, God used to create  blessings for Dave and me that became turning points for our lives.

COPYRIGHT © 2014 ALLAN E. MUSTERER

Aunt Frieda – My “Grandma”

As a young boy during my third and fourth years, I spent a lot of play time with my cousin Ron. We were born the same day, February 20, 1943 and it added to our close relationship as children.

Ron and Allan-6-16-1945-aRon & Allan,  June 16, 1945

My Aunt Frieda was my mother’s eldest sister and my cousin Ron’s fraternal grandmother. Each month she took us boys with her on a special adventurous journey when she had to pay her mortgage at a bank a few towns away.

Frieda Morgner-Stier 1940 s Garfield NJ-6-12-2015-r1                               Aunt Frieda in front of her home in the 1940’s

Aunt Frieda walked the few blocks to where we lived when she had an adventure planned for us boys. We returned to her house before our journey to give us a chance to explore their yard. The house she lived in was an adventure unto itself. Her husband, my Uncle Albin, had a virtual miniature farm on their small suburban lot. This was a real fascination for Ron and me. First there was the goldfish pond filled with goldfish eager to be fed. When we threw a few bread crumbs into the pond there was an ensuing feeding frenzy as the goldfish rose to the surface to devour the bread crumbs floating on the surface.

Then we picked some weeds from the lawn, bunny leaves we called them. Off to the rabbit cages we ran to stuff the bunny leaves through the wire netting of their cages and watched in fascination as the rabbits eagerly tugged to get every leaf through. They quickly gobbled them up as their twitching noses signaled their delight.
Allan and Ron -5-6-1945                                                      Allan & Ron in 1945
Allan and Ron --19475                                                       Allan & Ron in 1947

We couldn’t reach the next attraction because they were too high for us little guys. But, we still stood spell bound by the pigeon coops nestled high above the rabbit hutches. The pigeons of course added another dimension to our experience because they spoke to us with their cooing, adding to their incessant head bobbing. Oh how I wished I could feed them too!

Once we had our few minutes of entertainment in the backyard menagerie, Aunt Frieda summoned us into the house. We left out the front door and headed to the bus stop across the street. The old Chestnut Street bus that ran from Garfield to Passaic stopped across the street from Aunt Frieda’s house at the corner of Schley and Chestnut Streets. The first step of our real adventure was to take this bus to get to the train station in Passaic.
Chessy-Final 1947                         This is what the old Chestnut Street bus looked like.

When the bus arrived, I remember how it was such a struggle for us little guys, barely 3 feet tall,  to make it up the steps onto the bus. It must have been a comfort for us holding the steady hands of my Aunt Frieda as we made our way onto that old bus. I remember how noisy it was and that the ride was quite bumpy as the rickety old bus rattled its way down the streets. Ron and I held fast to the sides of our seat. As the bus shook and swayed, I marveled at those passengers who stood up, holding only the black leather straps hanging from pipes high above the seats.

Once the bus arrived at the bus station in Passaic, we made our way to the train station a few blocks away. Boarding the train to Rutherford was also a challenge for our short legs because the steps onto the train were even higher than the bus.

il_340x270_502368999_oj21                    A typical train car on the train to Rutherford New Jersey

The train ride was always a thrill for Ron and me. That thrill was magnified for me because of the train tracks at the end of Garden Court South where I lived, about an eighth of a mile from my house. As long as I can remember, the trains that passed every night created dreams of riding the train. My Aunt Frieda made those dreams come true!

The train took us to Rutherford where the bank that held Aunt Frieda’s mortgage had a branch. When the train arrived, we now faced the challenge of going down those high steps to the ground. Ron and I probably jumped the distance, not a happy thought for our Aunt Frieda no doubt, but after all, we were adventurous boys.

Successfully disembarked from the train we walked the few blocks to the bank. The bank was on a triangular block with the main entrance at the apex. This gave us little guys an interesting perspective, because the building was quite large and imposing. Once inside the teller cages were very high from our vantage point. I wonder today what thoughts must have coursed through our minds as we saw Aunt Frieda pass her envelop into the teller’s cage and shortly after getting it back. Surely it was a mystery to our three and four year old minds.

With the mortgage payment completed we left the bank and headed to the local German butcher shop. Aunt Frieda would get some meat and a few groceries. But the real treat for Ron and me was the hotdog the butcher would give us boys. A raw hotdog in those days was very different in quality than they are today. Hotdogs then lacked all the chemicals that we have today.

Then on April 10, 1947 I heard the sad news that my dear Aunt Frieda had died. I was four years and almost two months old at the time. I don’t remember what feelings came over me when I heard the news, but I am forever grateful that my parents took me to her wake and funeral. This experience proved to be a profound turning point in my life.

As I entered the funeral home, I was deeply moved by the scene of a huge number of flowers that to my small stature engulfed the whole room creating as it were a blanket. The flowers appeared to reach to the sky. Their aroma filled the room with a fragrance that still piques my senses. The scene was awash in a myriad of colors. My dad lifted me up so I could see my beloved aunt lying peacefully in the casket embraced by a sea of flowers. It was a profound experience in those few moments that gave me a peaceful and comforting view of death. I eventually realized that it gave me the ability to positively cope with the loss of dear ones for the rest of my life. As it turned out, I would experience many more deaths of very dear souls who deeply touched and blessed my life.

It may seem surprising that at such a young age I would develop a vision of the death of loved ones with such positive feelings. I learned, apparently, that the blessings garnered during my life with a deceased loved one transcended the pain of their loss. My clear memories of the wonderful experiences with my Aunt Frieda are forever resident in my heart and mind.

Turning Points

This experience was a significant turning point for me because  it provided a lifelong sense of comfort in the face of grief and loss. The combination of the overpowering sense of entering a garden abounding in beautiful flowers that seemed to reach the sky, the potent fragrance that filled the room adding a sense of being embraced and the hushed silence, created the perfect atmosphere to introduce my young soul to see my dear Aunt Frieda in a peace that was beyond my understanding. For the rest of my life, these few moments gave me peace as year after year, loved ones passed on. This peace defies my understanding and no words can describe it. These moments, my early life turning point, was my introduction to the awesome truth of Philippians 4:7 (NIV)

7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

I am forever grateful for this turning point that has served me all my life to this very day. I am grateful to God who inspired my parents to make this experience possible and that they had the courage to follow that inspiration.

One of the consequences of this turning point in my life is that I have been blessed to serve souls who are grieving over the loss of their loved ones. I have been requested to conduct or assist in many funeral and memorial services to this day.

I am active as a director with the Garden of Innocence where abandoned babies are given a funeral and dignified burial. I serve this organization delivering sermons from time to time and officiating over the dove release portion of the funeral service. (www.gardenofinnocence.org)

Turning Points have the interesting characteristic of evoking new and oft time’s far reaching and unexpected consequences in our life.

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Retroactive Self-Discovery

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~ In quiet solitude, the light of heaven illuminates our blessings ~

I find that looking back in quiet solitude I can uncover some very interesting turning points previously hidden, tucked away in my past. I term this experience “Retroactive Self-Discovery”.  This looking back into my past and finding new understanding for my life experiences is very rewarding. It is fascinating what a simple photo from years ago, seemingly insignificant at the time, can reveal some thoughts evoking new perspectives on who I am, what I have grown to become and the valued treasures I now possess.

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Consider this photo of my son at a very young age helping me wash the family car and suddenly discovering himself in his reflection. Who thought at the time, that this photo would prompt the following realizations?

First, I marvel at the timing of this photo. It was unplanned and never did I think that it would catch such a poignant moment in the life of our son. After years of sitting in my repository of photos, its treasure became obvious when I came upon it while searching my archives one day.

We know that children from their earliest grow in the process of discovering themselves. Thus begins a lifelong process of discovery. Exactly what our son discovered that was captured in this photo neither I nor he will probably ever know. But that is not what is important. Critical is that we realize that life brings us turning point moments when we are provided a unique opportunity to see ourselves in a new light.

As we make our way on our life’s journey, never underestimate the revealing power of old photos that have the potential to reveal turning points in our life and in the life of those dear to us that might otherwise be lost.

Turning Point

Realizing that photos from our past contain potential prompts that reveal turning points in our life previously hidden from view. They have the ability to not only transport us back in time, but to use our cache of experience to view those past moments in a whole new light. The turning points of others have the ability to further our appreciation of our own turning points.

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APPRECIATION

I have a fascination for words and their meanings. Some very potent words are seldom used but carry great meaning and implications. Other words are used frequently but have lost the full scope of their meaning because we don’t give them a second thought. We become satisfied with an incomplete understanding of what they convey.

When I prepare for any sermon or presentation, I often consult the dictionary to gain an understanding of a specific word in order to embrace the full scope of its meaning. I have an excellent resource in my old college dictionary that always seems to provide a wider scope for explaining the meaning of words in greater depth than some other resources.

Years ago, investigating the meaning of the word “appreciation” I initially found the following:
“the act of estimating the qualities of things and giving them their proper value”

I found myself dissatisfied with this meaning so I resorted to my old college dictionary. There I found this:
“the exercise of wise judgment, delicate perception, and keen insight in realizing the worth of something”

I began to dissect this meaning as the implication of the description fascinated me. As I investigated each component I found that some additions were apropos. After sometime of deliberation I settled on the following:
“the exercise of wise judgment, delicate perception, keen insight and sensitive awareness in realizing the worth or value of something or someone”

I then began to further my study by analyzing each word or phrase. I found the following to be true and worthwhile in understanding what appreciation really means.

Exercise is the putting forth of effort by me for my benefit. Exercise requires deliberate action on my part often requiring sacrifice and painful exertion to accomplish the task for which it is rendered.

Wise judgment is my evaluation that employs my cache of knowledge. When I exercise wise judgment, I engage my knowledge of the relevant subject under study, and add to it my comprehension of that subject and complete it with my understanding of its implications. I am then positioned to make a valid judgment.

Delicate perception is the view I have when my vision is based on my observation of the finer points. Here, I look not at the big picture, but rather focus deliberately on the finest details of my subject. I question what I see with the intention of looking deeper to find even greater detail. This allows me to find treasures that the casual observer may overlook.

Keen insight implies that the sharpness of my investigation is cutting deep and looking under the surface beyond the obvious. With the thought that nothing is ever what it appears to be, keen insight instigates the deeper exploration below the visible surface. It provides an understanding of what is at work creating what is seen in the open.

Sensitive awareness is the faculty to use all my senses to be aware, touched and moved. With this talent, I am equipped to see the peripherals that enhance or detract from the subject under consideration and make adjustments to my perspective appropriately.

Realizing the worth or value is making the treasure real to me. When the four exercises above are completed and fully engaged, worth and values are not merely known but they are real and possessed.

Something or someone indicates that appreciation applies to material things and people. When we consider this expansion to people we can understand a spiritual component to appreciation’s meaning. The crowning of appreciation then is when we truly appreciate our God and all the goodness that flows from Him to me.

The Turning Point
Since this in depth understanding of appreciation became clear to me, I found myself finding deep appreciation for the things I have and the people in my life. These truly have become greater in value and worth than ever before. A fascinating result of continued conscious and deliberate exercise of appreciation’s four sources, the more we value what we have in our possession.

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My Cross

Cross and sunset

My mother suffered illnesses all her life. In spite of it, she remained one of the most positive people I have ever known. She always was an inspiration to me as I grew up under her mothering.

She suffered a stroke that she could not overcome and because of the seizures that resulted she had to be on heavy medications until she passed on. Still she inspired me more than ever before. I often wondered what it was that enabled her to weather her storms of life with such strength and dignity.

It fell upon me to organize and review all the family documents. My mother had been a bookkeeper, so I found everything very well organized. While rummaging through one of her files, I came across a poem that she had saved.

I put the papers down and sat back to read this poem. As I read it, it occurred to me that this poem embodied her disposition, and gave her so much strength of faith and trust in our God. The poem is titled “My Cross”. I do not know who authored it, but I can hear my mother reciting it to this day.

MY CROSS

Upon my back was laid a grievous load,
A heavy cross to bear along the road.

I staggered on, until one weary day,
Lurking temptation sprang across my way.

I prayed to God, and swift at His command
The cross became a weapon in my hand.

It slew my threat’ning enemy, and then
Became a cross upon my back again.

I faltered many a league, until at length,
Groaning, I sank, and had no further strength.

“Oh God!” I cried, “I am so weak and lame!”
And lo! my cross a staff of strength became.

It swept me on till I regained the loss,
Then was upon my back, again a cross.

My soul a desert. O’er the burning tack
I persevered, the cross upon my back.

No shade was there, and in the burning sun
I sank at last, and thought my days were done.

But lo! the Lord works many a blest surprise –
The cross became a shade before my eyes!

I slept; I woke, to feel the strength of ten.
I found the cross upon my back again.

And thus, through all my days, from that to this,
The cross, my burden, has become a bliss,

Nor ever shall I lay the burden down,
For God one day will make my cross a crown!

The tears flowed as I read this poem and it unlocked my mother’s secret source. It still brings tears to my eyes and grips my heart as it works its touching and inspiring energy upon me just as it must have worked on her. I am thankful she passed it on to me.

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Turning Point

A simple poem, a word or phrase, spoken or read at just the right moment has the power to be a turning point for us. This poem was that, I am convinced, for my mother. From the moment I discovered this poem, it became the same for me, another turning point.

I hope that as you read this poem again, it helps you set your life’s compass and find your cross a bliss.

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I Remember How You Prayed

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I woke up early one Saturday morning. I read the morning newspaper and had breakfast before I settled into my home office to catch up on some filing and other mundane backlogged things that needed my attention. The phone rang and revealed an unfamiliar number. I hesitated to answer, expecting some telemarketer trying to sell me something I didn’t need or want. Strangely, I felt compelled to answer before the answering machine picked it up.

“Hello” I said.

“Hello Mr. Musterer.”

I didn’t recognize the voice so I inquired, “Who is this?”

A reply came, “Its Michael.” I had no idea who it was. It didn’t sound like any one of my friends named Michael, nor any others that I knew.

I said, “Michael who?”

The voice responded, “I lived across the street from you many years ago. I was your son Randy’s friend. I am now living in Florida.”

Then I remembered him and quickly said, “Hi Michael! How are you! It’s so nice to hear from you.”

“Oh, Mr. Musterer, I am not doing well at all.”

“What’s wrong Michael?”

“It’s my girlfriend, she has cancer and she is dying. The doctors gave her six weeks to live.”

“Oh, Michael, I am so sorry. Is there anything I can do?” I spontaneously responded.

Then Michael said something that really struck me.

“I remember when Randy and I were eight years old. You took us up to Big Pine Creek in the Sierras trout fishing. One morning, before we went out fishing again, you took us into the woods and you talked to us about God. I remember how you prayed. Would you pray with my girlfriend?”

For a moment I was speechless. After a pause, I said, “Michael, I would be honored to pray with your girlfriend.”

Michael said he would call back in a few minutes with her on the phone.

I was shaken at the revelation that something I had done some 25 years before had given this young man a measure of hope in his direst need. At the end of his rope, he saw a need to bring God into the situation and he believed I could do it.

I remembered that time in the summer of 1981. I had invited Michael to join Randy and me on a four day trout fishing trip to my favorite spot on Big Pine Creek high on the eastern slopes of the Sierra Mountains just above Big Pine. We loaded up my pickup truck and while packing I included my bible and my traveling pocket chalice with Holy Communion wafers. I paused with these items in my hands and thought, “why am I taking these? After all I am going on vacation into the wilderness with two children. And Michael’s faith is unknown to me.” But I took them in spite of these thoughts. Packed and ready to leave, the boys said their goodbyes to their mothers and we set out on the seven hour trek to the mountain campground.

When we arrived at the campground, we set up our camp essentials and headed for the frigid stream fed by a glacier higher up on the mountain.  Once we caught a few fish, we returned to our campsite to finish up the final details.

After two days of good fishing and the warming evening campfires, Sunday morning dawned. We ate breakfast and cleaned up the kitchen utensils. Then I took the boys into the woods and we found a spot where they could sit on a fallen tree trunk. I told them we were going to have a little church service. I prayed with the boys, spoke on the theme of the service that was being presented that day in our church back home, and together we celebrated Holy Communion. I prayed again and we returned to camp, picked up our fishing gear and went back to fishing. rsm-year11fish6-85001

Since that August 1981 fishing trip, I never gave any thought to what we had experienced with that little wilderness church service and I didn’t tell anyone. I suspect that had I told someone, they might have leveled some criticism like “Hey, you were on vacation! No need to have church there!”

Now, some 25 years later, with Michael’s call and the weight of his request on my heart, I deliberated on what just came to light. I woke my wife and told her what had just happened. We marveled at this and I asked her to pray that I would be a blessing for Michael and his girl friend. Then the phone rang.

“Hello” I said.

Michael said, “Allan, this is my girl friend Jennifer.”

I said, “Jennifer, it is so nice to meet you. Michael tells me that you are very sick, and the doctors seem to have given up hope.”

Jennifer humbly answered, “Yes that is true.”

I said, “Jennifer, I do not know you, but I know that God knows you. I know that His love for you is beyond what you or I can understand. To Him you are worth a kingdom. He will not let any harm come to you. I also know that Michael loves you dearly and he has asked me to pray with you. Would you like me to pray with you?”

“Yes, please.” she said.

I proceeded to pray with Michael and Jennifer. I thanked God that He revealed to Michael that there was a source of help in Jennifer’s dire situation.  I acknowledged God in His omnipotence and asked for His grace and blessing on the health of Jennifer. I asked that through His Holy Spirit, He would guide the hands and minds of the doctors to insure a positive, blessed outcome for her. I finally thanked God for what He would do for Jennifer and that His perfect will be done.

The three of us spoke briefly and we said our goodbyes.

I continued to pray for Jennifer and Michael in the days that followed. Early that week, I received another call from Michael. He told me that on Sunday, Jennifer became seriously ill and was rushed to the hospital emergency room. She seemed near death. Her regular doctor could not be reached so another doctor took over her care. When this doctor reviewed her medical charts, he immediately took her off the medication previously administered and changed to another one. Jennifer responded immediately to the new medication. So rapid and dramatic was her response that she was released from the hospital the next day. Her cancer went into remission and she was feeling better than she had for a long time.

I was thankful beyond words and offered up a prayer of praise and thanksgiving. I invited Michael to our church in his area. Later I found out he never went. Five years later Michael called again and told me that he and Jennifer were now “just friends” but she was still healthy and well. I took the opportunity to once again invite him to church. Whether he accepts or not is yet to be determined. But I learned much from this experience.

Turning Points

The turning point for me was the realization that actions that we take can have profound positive effects on people and that these may be hidden for many years. They are like seeds that take root and blossom only in God’s perfect and meticulous timing. I learned that we need to follow the impulses that God places into us, even if they don’t seem necessary or appropriate at the moment. God’s purpose for us may not be clear in its details, but it is undeniable in its reality. Prayer changes things, and prayer changes me.

It is my constant and continuing hope that this experience will be a turning point for Michael and Jennifer, and that they will realize the love and power of God that is available for them. I hope that they will know that God used them to give me a profound turning point in my life.

I am reminded of a story of a nun who, during World War I, had a hospital where she treated soldiers who fought in the war. Above the entry to her hospital were the words “Do Good and Disappear”. At times, God reveals to us the results of what good we once did and tried to disappear. Sometimes it takes years to know and sometimes we may never know.

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ACCENTS

 

It was the summer of 1973. I was a church youth leader and we were on a trip to Canada. I accompanied fifteen teenagers on the five hour flight from San Diego. Arriving in Toronto we were taken to one of the local churches where we were assigned to families who had volunteered to house our youth and youth leaders.

The next morning after a hearty breakfast, we were taken to a park where we were joined by youth form all over Canada and the USA.

We had just arrived at the park when I noticed a small crowd gathered around a man who was talking. I made my way to the edge of the rapidly building crowd of people.

I imagined he was about thirty years old with short prematurely gray hair. He was relating a fascinating story. Everyone was intently listening as he masterfully told his story with vivid details. To this day, I could not tell you what that story was about, but the life lesson, the turning point, that I experienced in the moments that followed were unforgettable.

As I listened to him speak, I assumed he was from England as he spoke in a distinctive English accent. I found his voice and accent delightful. When he was done I spoke up.

“What an interesting story. I could listen to your delightful accent for endless hours.” I said.

I felt good saying it and meant it as a compliment.

He quickly retorted in his heavy accent: “I don’t SPEAK with and accent! YOU LISTEN WITH ONE!!!”

Wow, was I taken aback!  I didn’t expect that response and didn’t know what to say so I just kept quiet. I momentarily stood there in shock, dumbfounded and unable to utter a single word. The man quickly entered into discussions with others while I slinked away to be in solitude.

Alone, I deliberated within myself as to what had just occurred. After I extricated my ego from the shock, I realized that this man had given me a new and ultimately valuable perspective. He revealed a fine point in the art of listening. We all have an accent, a filter that characterizes what we hear and how we process it. It is important that we are aware of our accents and in some cases, alter them by fine tuning them for our own benefitial growth in mastering our listening skills.

The Turning Point

Over the process of years of deliberation and observation, I have grown to appreciate this profound point of listening: We must be aware and conscious that we indeed listen with an accent: the accent of “I want it to be thus…” or “Only if it is my way will I play….” or “that’s not what I expected” .  Since then I have learned to relish the unexpected, unplanned for, surprisingly rewarding events that force their way into my day….they are gifts of learning, learning who I am, why I’m here, and where I am going, as well as who you are, why you are here in my life, and where are we going together.

I also learned that sometimes there “accents of ignorance” and that at times, well meaning people can say things that hurt us. When I am aware of the accents of others, I can parry that hurt and quickly forgive, saving myself from unwanted and unnecessary pain.

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